How are y’all holding up?

I’m mentally exhausted. I’m emotionally exhausted. With everything happening, I’m struggling to stay happy. If I were an anxiety patient, I would be having severe anxiety attacks by now.

From COVID-19 pandemic to this lockdown, it has been not so easy. I’ve been constantly looking for things to keep me busy and happy.

The murder cases happening this period is alarming. When did being black become a crime? Is being black a license to get killed? From Ahmaud Arbery to Breona Taylor to George Floyd and so many others. WE NEED JUSTICE!!

Moving to the in house problem in Nigeria, rape has always been a case that has never received adequate Justice. Victims are killed and the ones lucky to survive are traumatized. My heart goes out to victims who are trying their best to heal and yet still see what’s happening today and get to read disgusting comments from people who have brain issues literally.

  • Uwa was a 22 year old reading in a church. She was raped and murdered.
  • Jennifer was a 12 year old. She was raped by 11 men
  • Tina was 16 year old. She was killed by Nigerian police that were meant to protect her.

I don’t know how we got to this point of inhumane behaviours and brutality. I’ve taken a much needed break from social media for the time being to protect my sanity. My playlist of worship songs have been lifting up my spirit so I’m going to feel better soon.

How are you coping with everything going on and protecting your sanity this period?

Flat twist out + quick updo on short 4c hair.

So after my wash and go fiasco from my previous post, I didn’t want to sleep with my hair like that in it’s shrunken state with gel all over it like that, so I decided to take advantage of the gel and do a flat twist out.

Since my hair already had gel in it, all I did was to spray some water on my hair to reactivate the gel and flat twist my hair in small sections. When doing flat twists, make sure you’re flat twisting your hair in the direction you want it to fall.

The key to a good flat twist out is to make clean parts as you’re adding more hair while twisting and avoid borrowing hair so you don’t cause frizz during the takedown process. After flat twisting, I used Bobby pins to pin the twists while they dry so that they can be stretched and I have more length with the style.

The takedown

1.) Apply oil to your fingers and a little on your hair to add some shine

2.) Carefully unravel the twists, making sure to remove each curl carefully.

3.) Use your comb to pick the roots to hide the lines in your hair and to give your hair volume

You don’t need to separate the curls when you do a flat twist because flat twists give volume and definition unlike a normal twist out.

So I styled the flat twist out into a quick updo by rolling the hair at the back upwards and using a Bobby pin to secure it. This hairstyle came out so lovely and I may have found my go to hairstyle.

The pattern I flat twisted in. I wanted some of my hair to fall towards my face.
Freshly unravelled with one side pinned.
Back view

I’ve been so lost on how to style my hair since it’s still short, but if I say so myself, I did a very good job with this hairstyle. What do you guys think?

Thanks for reading

Stay blessed 🙌

Wash and No or Wash and Go?

What was I thinking when I picked up my eco styling gel to do a wash and go? Nothing. I clearly wasn’t thinking because for a moment I forgot I have thick thick 4c hair with hardly any visible curl pattern except when soaking wet.

Before I tried this hairstyle, I was on YouTube for a good amount of time trying to find the perfect video I could follow for 4c hair and my hair length. It’s very hard to find videos for short real 4c hair wash and go. After all the search and watching all the videos I found, I decided to do a wash and go on dry hair (was this a sensible idea?) I was trying to minimize shrinkage.

I cowashed my hair the previous night and moisturized it with a leave in conditioner and an oil. Then went to bed.

The faithful day of the wash and go came and I started off with okro gel, it didn’t clump my coils to my liking so I topped it with eco styling gel and I started getting better definition of my coils. It was a struggle to get my hair to clump properly. I alternated from shingling, to raking, to smoothing just so that my hair will act right.

I finally got it to work. I did a combination of raking and smoothing. I realized that I shouldn’t have used a leave in conditioner prior to doing the wash and go because it was flaking and creating a barrier that was not allowing the gel to clump my coils properly.

I learnt from my mistakes and next time I’ll use a water based moisturizer like a spray so that it doesn’t occur again. I’ll also start on freshly washed hair, clarified if possible because when I clarify my hair with a clay mask, my coils tend to come out from their hiding place which will be a good base for doing a wash and go.

I’ll still use the same method of raking the gel through my hair and smoothing gel through very little sections. This created a very good curl pattern for me so I’ll stick with it.

I probably won’t use eco styler the next time. It depends on if I get a new gel which I plan to.

The end result came out okay for my first time. By the time it was dry just you could only see the coils on the ends of my hair because of how thick my hair is.

Half way done
Freshly styled. You can see the first section had started shrinking already
After 2hours

So do you think this was a wash and go or wash and no? The shrinkage and struggle were real…smh.

Side note, I didn’t sleep with this style. I did flat twists and changed the look to a flat twist out.

I love how easy it is to switch up styles with natural hair. It’s so versatile. So watch this space to see how my flat twist out turned out with a nice updo I did (it may or may not be my best hairstyle yet).

Cowashing natural hair.

My hair needed a boost of moisture in between my biweekly washes so I decided to cowash my hair. I’ve always wanted to try out cowashing but I never got around to do so. I was skeptical about it working for my hair but I comforted myself with the fact that if it doesn’t come out well, I’ll be clarifying my hair the next wash day the following week, so it won’t matter.

Cowashing is a process where you use just conditioners to cleanse your hair. Cowashes are done when you’re hair isn’t really dirty, but you still need to cleanse your hair mildly.

Why you should cowash

1.) It’s more gentle to cowash your hair than to use a shampoo.

2.) Less moisture loss

3.) Less frizz

4.) Faster and easier washday. You get to cleanse and condition your hair in one step.

5.) It’s perfect for refreshing your hair midweek or in between shampooing.

With cowashing, you can decide to deep condition afterwards but I decided to skip it because I was cowashing my hair in the night, and I was kind of tired. Plus I felt my hair was already moisturized enough. No need to put it through unnecessary stress because I know deep conditioning is good, but excess of it can be harmful.

So, I used my xpel hair care banana conditioner to cowash and washing my hair has never felt so good because I literally jumped into the shower without detangling my hair prior to that time, drenched my hair in water and applied the conditioner on my hair.

I was able to detangle my hair easily with just my fingers and just used a comb for necessity sake, just to make sure my hair was properly detangled.

The whole process of cowashing took me about 20mimutes and I spent most of the time admiring my curls in the bathroom 😂. My hair was soft, bouncy and moisturized after the whole process. This is something I see myself doing more often.

The key to adding a cowash in your hair care routine is to not over do it. Just cleansing your hair with conditioners can cause product build up which can cause breakage.

Do you cowash your hair? Let me know how you add it to your hair care routine.

I did a thing to my hair after cowashing my hair guys. Stay tuned to see what I did in my next post.

Thanks for reading.

Stay blessed 🙌

How Not To: Moisturize your natural hair

Welcome back to my blog and to the second post in the ‘how not to’ series.

Knowing how to moisturize your hair properly is very essential in your hair care routine. I’ll be talking on the things you shouldn’t do when moisturizing your hair.

1.) Using oils or butters: oils and butters are not meant for moisturizing your hair but to seal in the moisture in your hair, so if you’re using just oils to moisturize your hair, you’re simply sealing the dryness in your hair. You should use a water based product or plain old water to moisturize your hair.

2.) Not sealing after moisturizing: after you have used a water based product to moisturize your hair, you have to seal on the moisture so it doesn’t get dry quickly. This is where oils and butters come to play. They help to keep your hair moisturized for a longer period of time.

3.) Not using the right products for your hair type: you need to use products that work with your hair type and hair porosity. For low porosity hair, you should be using lighter products cause thick products may just sit on your hair while for high porosity hair, you need thicker products because it looses it’s moisture quickly. This may not be the case with everyone’s hair, so you’ll have to figure out what works for your hair and stick to it.

4.) Not working in sections: with natural hair, it’s best that you work in sections with everything you’re doing. This way, all parts of your hair gets the product adequately and you get the job done properly.

These are few points to keep in mind whenever you’re moisturizing your hair.

Thanks for reading

Stay blessed 🙌

Bantu knot out on short 4c hair

I’m back again with another hair style I tried on my short natural hair. Quarantine has been making me do things I wouldn’t do on a normal day. Since I took down my braids, I’ve been trying out hairstyles which I never have time to do on a normal day. But with so much time on my hands now, I can experiment with new styles and not care whether it turns out good or not.

Initially, I was going to do a flexi rod set or perm rod set but I found out that I didn’t have enough flexi rods and not enough perm rods for my whole head. I then decided to use both the flexi rods and perm rods since I’m not going anywhere and I really wanted to try out the hairstyle. I started the process but wasn’t getting the hang of it so I just changed my mind.

I still wanted a look that would give me a curly effect like that of perm rods, so I decided to do a Bantu knot out.

So this hairstyle was a fail and not a fail at the same time. First of all, when I was styling my hair I didn’t have high hopes for it because I didn’t boil my okros enough to give me the right consistency I needed so I couldn’t use my normal okro gel as my styler and I’ve run out of leave in conditioner so I had to use a random moisturizer I too from my mum as my styler.

As usual, I started on freshly washed and deep conditioned hair, but I made sure my hair was about 70% dry before I started styling my hair.

Doing Bantu knots was not that hard. There are two ways to do a Bantu knot, and you can check it out on YouTube. I did the one were you do a two strand twist first then wrap it around itself as opposed to the when were you roll it then wrap it around itself.

I washed my hair hair on Thursday, then took down the Bantu knots on Saturday. I always leave my hair to dry for 2 days or at least a day and a half to make sure it’s properly set.

The takedown process is the same as taking down a braid out or twist out. You can check out my previous post on braid out to see how I take down my hairstyles.

The Bantu knot out came out decent. I really didn’t like the look a normal afro was giving me so I went ahead to style it in a half up half down look and it came out cute.

I can’t say how long the style lasted since I didn’t use a gel or any styler. I ended up fluffing out all the curls the next day and put my hair in 2 chunky flat twists till my next wash day.

I want to try out a cowash for the first time and see how my hair will like it. Will keep you guys updated on how it goes.

Thanks for reading

Stay blessed 🙌


How Not To: Detangle Natural hair

Welcome back to my blog. I’m starting a ‘how not to’ series where I’ll be explaining how not to do some hair practices we do to take care of our natural hair. The first one is going to be how not to detangle your natural hair.

If you have natural hair, especially as a 4c girl, detangling can be a whole sport which can make or break your hair journey. It plays a crucial role in how much length you’ll be able to retain while growing your hair.

Let’s go straight to the things you shouldn’t do while detangling your hair.

1.) Detangling dry hair: YOU DO NOT WANT TO DETANGLE YOUR HAIR DRY. I can’t stress this enough. Many naturals complain about their hair being painful to comb but do you spray water or apply moisturizer on your hair before combing it? Using water or a water based product will help to loosen up the knots in your hair and let the comb glide through easily without ripping through your hair.

2.) Using a small teeth comb: it’s very important to always use a wide tooth comb to detangle your hair. I’ll even advice to first detangle with your fingers before going in with a comb so that your hair is less tangled and easier to comb through. Using a small teeth comb to detangle your hair is going to cause so much harm to your hair.

3.) Not working in sections: since natural hair is really thick, it’s best to work in sections so you can detangle all parts of your hair adequately without stress or pains.

4.) Detangling your hair in a hurry: natural hair will test your patience. You need to be gentle and patient when detangling your hair. Try not to be in a rush when dealing with your hair, this way you’ll have enough time to work through your coils without causing harm to your hair.

These are some simple tips to keep in mind when detangling your hair so you’re doing it properly.

Thanks for reading

Stay blessed 🙌