First of all happy new month!! I’m out here just dropping this without an announcement prior to this post but this introduction should do. I’ve been slacking on creating content for the blog so I wanted to do a one month blogging thing where I’ll try to blog throughout the month of December but then, I came across blogmas posts and decided it would be fun to do that. On that note, my blogmas would be both Christmas and non Christmas related posts.
I’m always so excited in September and December. September because it’s my birth month and it’s the first ’ember’ month, meaning we’re gradually getting to the end of the year. December because we’re in the last month of the year and it’s Christmas. I loved Christmas as a child, and I think I even love it more now.
So we’re finally in the last month of the year and this year 2020 really came to show off. It came in a grand style and I can’t even be mad. But we’re in December and this is the month of ‘cutting off’ toxic behaviours and people. And talking about toxicity, I’m bringing to you, 6 situations where you need to let silence be the answer. Once hurtful words are said, they can’t be taken back you can only be forgiven. But! This is the season of spreading love and positive only.
Be silent when you are angry.
This is the ogapatapata(chief) of all the situations. Personally, I find it hard to express myself when I’m angry so I’ll rather just keep quiet, but the few times when I let anger have the best of me, I’m not so proud of the things I’ve said. Being silent when you’re angry would prevent you from saying unnecessary words which would hurt the recipient. And I sure do hate the excuse ‘I was angry, it didn’t mean anything’ because if you hadn’t been harbouring those thoughts in your heart, they wouldn’t have come out as words.
Be silent when you know nothing about a situation or topic.
Infact, be silent when you do not have all the facts. It’s okay to be quiet, you don’t always have to say something. Don’t go about saying things that you are not sure are true just because you want to feel ‘among’. And most of all, don’t go about saying things you know are not true. Stop spreading lies please.
Be silent if you cannot say it without screaming.
I’m low-key talking to myself, typing this. Who wants a second set of parents that’s not their parents or even their elder shouting at them? Screaming is not necessary, and even arguments can do without them. Screaming just hinders the purpose of the communication.
Be silent if your words will offend a person.
Just keep quiet. You mustn’t say that thing. Even if it’s the truth, you can say it in a non offensive way. Let’s take people’s feelings into consideration before going ahead to spit out everything in our head. But if someone was rude to you, bro! sis! Give it back to that person. You have all the right to change it for the rude fellow.
Be silent if your words could damage a friendship.
Especially if that friendship is not worth losing, be silent. It doesn’t cost much to be silent. Just swallow back the words. It’s certainly not so easy most of the time, but it’s worth it.
Be silent when you’re feeling critical.
We’re the generation of wanting to say things as it is, but that doesn’t mean we should be so rude about it. If you need to criticize somebody’s work or behaviour, do it from a place of good and not jealousy or bluntness. Especially when the person you’re criticising just needs a friend or someone to encourage him or her to do better. You can be critical without sounding judgemental, but if you can’t do that, just stay silent.
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