Blogmas Day 14|A Quick Reminder.

Welcome to blogmas day 14.

We’re 2 weeks into this and I feel so proud of myself right now. I want to use this opportunity to thank all you who have been reading and commenting๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š It really goes a long way to help motivate this girl, so I appreciate you guys.

Today’s post would be really quick. It’s just going to be me reminding about some things I’m sure you already know but needs to be said again.

What others think of you is not your concern.

You have the right to say no or change your mind without an explanation.

Struggling does not mean you’re failing. Give yourself some credit.

Everybody you started with can’t go to the next level with you.

A shorter process doesn’t always mean it’s the wrong way. Sometimes, less is more.

Don’t become attached to people’s approval.

A conversation about how you feel shouldn’t be an argument.

Stop choosing what’s not choosing you.

Prayer is a form of self love.

Make room for what you ask for.


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Blogmas Day 13|Quick Fixes For A Bad Hair Day.

Welcome to blogmas day 13.

Have you ever twisted or braided your hair, expecting a bomb hairstyle the next day? Or you’ve imagined how your that hairstyle you’ve planned is going to be but it doesn’t come out as planned? Girl, me too.

I’ll be sharing some solutions to salvage your hair game.

Headwraps

I love me a pretty headwrap. It’s a perfect solution for a bad hair day and can work for all hair lengths cause you’re literally hiding your hair, except you want a style where your hair still shows. Just get a pretty headwrap and tie it to your style. The good thing about headwraps, there are different ways to style it to suit your style.

Wigs

Am I the only person who thinks that wigs are lifesavers? They are a good alternative for headwraps when you need to wear cooperate clothes (this is what I just personally feel). Perfect for all hair lengths too. Just throw a wig cap on and put on your wig.

Puffs

High puff has been saving the natural hair girls since 1960. Just throw your hair in a puff sis. It’s a go to style for almost everyone, but for some reason I feel high puffs look weird on me, but I wear it anyways (I can actually count the number of times I’ve worn a high puff and that says a lot). It can work with different hair lengths too.

Facecaps

Do you know there are satin lined facecaps too? I know, that’s amazing. You can now wear a facecap and still protect your hair with the gentle texture of a satin material. Perfect for when you don’t want to be bothered with your hair and still look amazing.

Faux Ponytails

This is another chic hairstyle that I love. But it can only be a quick fix if your hair is long enough to be put in a quick ponytail before attaching the faux ponytail. It’s beautiful anyways, and if you get a ponytail with your hair texture, you might just get away with making people believe that it’s your hair.

There, you have it! 5 quick fixes to get you through a bad hair day.


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Blogmas Day 12|You Should Quit Assuming Today.

Welcome to blogmas day 12.

Today we’re talking about another toxic behaviour we have to leave in 2020. Assumption. Assumption is a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof. I’m guilty of this and I even got into a pretty heated argument because I assumed that someone was supposed to know something but didn’t.

Assumption happens when there’s an unwillingness to ask questions to feel up blank spaces of an information or situation. In the absence of complete information, you have to fill in the blank spaces yourself which most of the time, is wrong. With your own version of the story, you start connecting dots that are non existent.

It’s important to start asking questions because you don’t live in another person’s mind. I remember when this saying was trending on social media “you should hear my silence” or something around that line. How are we supposed to hear what you’re not saying? You shouldn’t assume that somebody knows something when you haven’t stated it plainly.

Some people may say actions speak louder than words, but why are your actions and words counteracting each other? That’s not meant to be so. Your words should align with your actions so that the other party can avoid assumptions. And for the other party, ask questions!

Why you should stop assuming.

1.) Assumptions can make you miss opportunities.

2.) Assumptions causes you to make errors in decision making and in your actions.

3.) Assumptions can make you overconfident and that can be dangerous.

4.) Assumptions can make you misunderstand people because you don’t give them a chance to explain themselves.

5.) Assumptions can make you cultivate a negative mindset.

6.) Assumptions can stop you from taking responsibility for your life. They allow you to hide behind the version of your story you’ve created with false information so that you won’t own your part in the true story.


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Blogmas Day 11|My Top 5 Best Christmas Songs

Welcome to blogmas day 11.

How are y’all doing? I woke up with a mild sore throat and I hope it remains mild because sore throats are the worst and anytime I have sore throat, it’s usually a symptom of malaria. And it’s so ironic because I was just bragging to my friend last night that my genotype is AA but I hardly have malaria as most people with AA genotype do.

My phone was acting up today so I just let it be for majority of the day. So this post would be really quick.

Today I’ll be sharing my top 5 Best Christmas songs.

Where’s the line to see Jesus by Becky Kelley.

This is number one in my top 5 list. I first heard this song in 2014 and it has been a favourite of mine since then. The song gives me chills everytime I listen to it.

Little drummer boy by Pentatonix.

This is an a capella band of 5 members. They are sooo good. I love the main song but their a capella version is just so awesome.

O Holy Night by Mariah Carey.

We sang this song in my choir when I was in JSS1 and I’ve not forgotten it. It gives me hope hymn vibes but it’s a really great song.

Holy holy holy by Kurt Carr.

I love me some Kurt Carr music. He’s one of my favourite gospel artiste. Well, after Kirk Franklin. And as always, this is a really good song.

All I want for Christmas is you by Mariah Carey

I love this song. From the beat, to her voice, and it’s a popular song that gets you into the Christmas mood.


These are my top 5 Christmas songs. What’s your favourite Christmas song?
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Blogmas Day 10| DIY Black Soap Shampoo For Natural Hair

Welcome back to blogmas day 10.

This post has been sitting in my drafts since late October. I totally forgot I hadn’t published it, but no content goes to waste over here.

You guys already know I’m a DIY princess right?๐Ÿ˜‚ I honestly want to reduce the amount of things I do myself, but we basically have these things at home and so going to buy the store bought ones are like wasting resources so I’m not about that wastage life.

When it comes to shampoos, I’m not so picky. As long as it doesn’t leave my hair feeling stripped off moisture and it cleans my scalp, then I’m good. I’ve been using We Naturals blacksoap shampoo from their hemp oil range and I really liked it because it cleaned my hair without leaving it feeling dry and stripped off moisture. The shampoo was a 500ml bottle and I’ve basically used it throughout my hair journey(since I started transitioning) I got the whole hemp oil set in 2018 and the shampoo just finished. I’m almost out of it though, so I started making plans for a new one then I remembered we have black soap at home.

For this shampoo, I used the same things I used for my diy whipped Shea butter. When I tell you my hair was soft after shampooing my hair, I was shocked at how moisturized my hair felt. It felt better than when I used the We Naturals shampoo. And I was even heavy handed when using the shampoo.

How to make.

For this shampoo, I didn’t use any specific measurements. I basically just eyeballed most of the ingredients but I was able to get a 13oz bottle of shampoo.

Ingredients
1.) Any black soap
2.) 1 tablespoon of Shea butter
3.) 1ยฝ tablespoon of Honey
3.) 1 tablespoon of palm kernel oil
4.) 2 tablespoons of olive oil
5.) 5 drops of tea tree oil
6.) 10 drops of vitamin C serum
7.) A cup of hot water

Procedure
1.) Shred the black soap into little pieces then put in a cup of hot water and allow to melt.
2.) Melt the Shea butter using the double boiler method (put the Shea butter in a container then place it in a bowl of hot water).
3.) Add the melted Shea butter, oils, honey and the vitamin C serum into the cup containing the now liquid blacksoap then stir properly.
4.) Transfer your moisturizing shampoo into a bottle and shake.

This process is very easy. It doesn’t take up to 15 minutes and you’ve made yourself a bottle of shampoo. You can make your shampoo as much as you want and add any other oils or herbs to your shampoo. Just make sure you do your research concerning your hair’s needs and the shelf life. I wanted mine to be pretty basic so I just used basic ingredients.
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Blogmas Day 9|Harmattan Hair Care Tips

Welcome to blogmas day 9. Hope you’re all enjoying my blogmas because I am. Which other bloggers are you keeping up with their blogmas posts?

Today I’ll be sharing some tips on how to care for your hair during the harmattan season. Harmattan season is an intensive dry weather that comes with dust and causes chapped lips, cough, catatrrh, dry skin amongst so many other things. And last but not the least, dry and brittle hair. Taking care of your hair during harmattan has to be done consciously.

Here are some tried and tested tips to get you through the harmattan season.

Moisturize! Moisturize! Moisturize!

You can never have too much moisture in your hair during harmattan. You have to moisturize your hair more regularly than you used to. I usually moisturize my hair every 2 days, but during harmattan, it’s essential that I do it everyday. Twice daily if I have to go out.

Deep condition regularly.

You need to step up your deep conditioning game this period. Deep condition your hair weekly or as often as your schedule would allow you. You should focus on moisture, so moisturizing deep conditioners should be used.

Increase your water intake.

Water is good for your skin and hair. You should significantly increase the amount of water you drink during harmattan season because you can easily get dehydrated.

Cowash more and shampoo less.

Cowashing can be beneficial during this period because shampoos can overly dry out your hair which we’re trying to avoid. You should still shampoo your hair to remove excessive build up, but it should be done less and with moisturizing sulphate free shampoos.

Stay away from heat.

Stay away from blow dryers, flat irons, curling wands and other heat tools. The weather is already dry enough, so you don’t need to add more external factors which would end up making your hair dry and brittle.

Massage your scalp with oil regularly.

This will prevent you from having a dry and flaky scalp. Massaging your scalp regularly would ensure increased blood circulation which encourages hair growth. Ensure that you spritz your hair lightly with warm water before oiling your scalp. This will help keep your scalp moisturized and not just oily. Here’s how to massage your scalp properly

Use butters and thick oils.

You want ditch your light oils like olive, coconut, almond oils and opt for thicker oils like castor oil or butters like shea, cocoa and mango butters. If your hair doesn’t like raw Shea butter, you can make a whipped shea butter like I usually do. The butters and thick oils would help to seal in the moisture you put in your hair and ensure that your hair is protected and doesn’t lose moisture quickly.

Avoid dust as much as possible.

Headwraps and facecaps are your bestfriends this period. They’ll help prevent dust from settling in your hair.

Wear satin bonnets.

Satin and silk are your hair’s bestfriends. Ensure that you wear a satin bonnet to sleep because it would help retain the moisture in your hair for a longer period. Also try and wear it even during the day when you’re at home.

Avoid overly using humectants.

Humectants such as honey and glycerin are great to draw in moisture from the atmosphere into the hair, but during harmattan the air is usually dry so your hair will tend to lose moisture to the atmosphere as water tends to move down it’s concentration gradient (from higher concentration to lower concentration) resulting in dry and brittle hair which is prone to breakage.

Protective styles.

If you’re like me and can’t be bothered to be have her hair out, get a protective style. That way, you’re hair is protected from direct exposure to the dry weather. It’s important that you still moisturize your hair with that protective style to prevent breakage. You can check out this protective style look book for inspiration.


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Blogmas Day 8|How To Drink More Water.

Welcome to blogmas day 8.

I’m bringing you a topic that is already becoming so cliche because everybody always says to drink water, but it can actually be hard if you’ve not made it a habit. I’ll be sharing ways that can help you drink more water.

Set a goal.

Have a set amount of water you want to be able to finish everyday. When you have a definite set goal, it makes things more visible and easier to attain it.

Start Slow.

Don’t rush yourself. You can start with just a bottle of water, then gradually increase it.

Have a water bottle.

Preferably, a pretty one in your favourite colour. Your bottle should be with you all the time so you can drink regularly. You’re more likely to drink more water when you have a personal attachment to your bottle. I got a purple bottle because I love purple and I love carrying it about because then, I’m compelled to drink the water.

Make drinking water part of your routine.

Let it be one of the things you write down as part of the things you want to accomplish in a day, if you’re someone who writes down daily plans. Place it in a way that you can consciously remember to do, for example, after you use the bathroom or the first thing you do when you wake up.

Use an app or set reminders on your phone.

So you don’t forget, let your phone remind you since we always have our phone with us. An app can help you monitor your progress.

Reward yourself.

The human brain loves to be rewarded. Make a plan to reward yourself when you reach your drinking goal. Who doesn’t like being rewarded? You can buy yourself a snack or a book, or anything nice you want. Just let your brain make drinking water associated with a good feeling and not a chore.

Give your bottle time marks.

Or you get a bottle that has time marks. If you’re still having a hard time sticking to your drinking water goals, try making use of time marked bottles. It would help keep track of your progress and you’ll be encouraged to reach your goal.


How much water do you drink in a day? I drink from anywhere around 1.5 to 3litres.

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Blogmas Day 7|I Almost Fought On The Road.

Welcome to blogmas day 7.

Today’s post should have been featured in my story corner but let’s have it in the blogmas cause why not?

I like to think of myself as a very calm person and someone who doesn’t like trouble but you see, Nigeria is a mad place and you have to have an ounce of madness in you to survive in Nigeria.

One evening on my way to church, I was about crossing the road at a junction and all of a sudden my hand was held back. I looked back in shock because I was surprised. I turned around and I saw it was a bus conductor. I was already irritated because I was running late because of the same bus conductors but that’s a story for another day.

So this bus conductor held back my hand and I had to stop to let him release my hands but he wouldn’t budge. I began to shout at him before he finally let go of my hand but he wouldn’t leave the way so that I could pass and unfortunately the road was narrow. There were people selling at one side and buses at the other side so the only way was to move forward or back.

Oga made an attempt to hold my hand again asking what was so special about me that he couldn’t touch. I began to shout that he shouldn’t touch me and by then people had started gathering. Unfortunately for me, they weren’t sensible people but just another bunch of crazy bus conductors. They were just laughing and gassing him up. I was so annoyed so I just stood there while he was still trying to grab my hand but I was dodging.

It was not until the passengers in the bus that he was supposed to be loading started shouting at him that he left. I almost slapped the guy on impulse when he was holding me but I knew that would be dangerous so I held myself back. When he finally left I let out my breath I didn’t know I was holding and I almost started crying because I was so angry and felt really weak.

If you people hear that I fought on the road though don’t be surprised. They’ll probably beat me up, but I’ll try my best to give a few slaps and hits๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.


Have you ever had any crazy experience with strangers on the road?

Today wasn’t a hot day๐Ÿ˜ฉIt finally rained today guys! I was so excited when I heard rain falling. The heat has been something else.

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Blogmas Day 6|The Gratitude Arena

Welcome to blogmas day 6. Happy Sunday!

This year has thought me the importance of gratitude. I’m now grateful for the very little things, or the things we take as little. Because some things we see as basic items are luxury items to some others. If you read my birthday post, you’ll see that I talked about gratitude. I started keeping a gratitude journal since my birthday and honestly, it has made me happier. I no longer take things for granted. I’ll be sharing some things I’m grateful for from my journal.

I’m grateful for the gift of the Holy Spirit. When Jesus said He’ll send the Holy Spirit to us as a comforter and teacher, it’s like he was talking to me. I really don’t know what I’ll do without the Holy Spirit. I’ve been spoiled with the good life.

I’m grateful that I can breathe fresh air without having to pay for oxygen.

I’m grateful for God’s mercies and grace upon my life.

I’m grateful for my family and friends.

I’m grateful for the provision of food and clean water.

I’m grateful for my health. That all my internal and external organs are complete and I don’t have to be placed on drugs to survive.

I’m grateful for my eyes and my glasses. In the beginning of this year my the pressure of my eyes was high and I was placed on medication to get it back to 2 to now, they’ve gotten back to a normal range and I’m very grateful.

I’m grateful for growth. In all areas of my life that I’ve grown this year, I’m grateful.

I’m grateful for a sound mind.

I’m grateful for the low points in my life.

They definitely made me stronger.

I’m grateful that I leave my house and get back home safely everyday.

I’m grateful for good music to get me through smooth and rough days.

I’m grateful for electricity.

I’m grateful for my peace of mind.

I’m grateful for every skill and talent I have.

I’m grateful that my skin has improved and I no longer have hormonal pimples.

I’m grateful that I no longer experience painful menstruation.

I’m grateful for this blog, my followers and readers. For a space to rant and share my thoughts with wonderful people.

I’m grateful for the internet.

I’m grateful for the opportunity to go to school.

I’m grateful for the addition of a child my family this year.

I’m grateful that in this global pandemic where people lost their jobs and there were so many bad news everywhere, but in my family, we have so many reasons to thank God.

I’m grateful that my grandparents are aging gracefully.

I’m grateful that I’m alive.

What are you grateful for?

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Blogmas Day 5|A Gift Guide For A Naturalista

Welcome to blogmas day 5.

It’s the season of giving and I’m sure you have a sister or friend with natural hair who you’re planning on getting a gift, so why not something that would be beneficial to her hair? It would be a very thoughtful gift.

I shared my Christmas wishlist in case you need an extra inspiration for gift ideas. But today, I’m bringing to you, general stuff that anybody with natural hair would love and appreciate.

Steaming Cap.

This is a very essential item when deep conditioning your hair. It makes your hair feel soft when you steam your hair with your favourite deep conditioner. It really steps up your deep conditioning game and ensures that your hair absorbs all the nutrients from your deep conditioner.

Satin Lined Hoodie.

Who doesn’t love a good hoodie? Not me. And I’m sure we know how natural hair loves satin. There are now hoodies that are lined with satin which means that you can wear a hoodie and still have your hair protected.

Satin/Silk Scarves.

Satin and silk scarves are beautiful and they’re a nice way to add accessories to your hair and also good to rescue a failed hairstyle or your go to on a lazy day.

Satin Bonnets.

Good for protecting natural hair at night and it helps to retain the moisture in the hair to leave it soft and manageable.

Scalp Massaging Brush.

I talked on the benefits of massaging your scalp here. And a massaging brush makes it so easy to do so. Plus, it doubles as a shampoo brush and can be used to scrub your scalp instead of your fingers.

Wigs/Clip in Extensions.

For when she needs a break from getting her hair done. Which can be everytime. I think I everybody deserves to own 2 or 3 wigs.

Temporary Hair Dye.

Everybody deserves to have some fun and we can have it with our hair right? Temporary hair dyes are a fun way to add colour to your hair without commiting to one colour or the stress of dealing with colour treated hair.

Essential Oils.

Everybody needs essential oils in their lives. And they’re useful for more than just haircare that’s why they’re so important.

You may still go ahead and get a complete range of hair products for that naturalista because why not?


Did you see anything on your wishlist here?

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Catch up on my previous blogmas posts.

Blogmas Day 1

Blogmas Day 2

Blogmas Day 3

Blogmas Day 4

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