What Having Acne Has Taught Me

Welcome back to my blog.

There’s always something to learn from every challenge you face and having acne is no different. I’ll be sharing 6 things I’ve learnt dealing with acne.

Patience

This is like the biggest of all. Acne doesn’t go overnight and no product can work overnight either. It takes a whole lottttttt of patience to see a drastic difference. And most times with acne treatments it gets worse before it gets better so you have to stay strong and consistent.

Empathy and kindness

You know you reap what you sow? Do to others what you want others to do to you. Physical flaws are just physical flaws. Having acne has made me able to empathize with what others go through, be it acne or not. It has made me sensitive and gentle towards others. I would never point out physical flaws, not even in a joking manner because you don’t know what that person is going through.

Self-care

And I’m not just talking about the physical part. I’ve learnt to be gentle and easy with myself. It’s not my fault that I have acne. Periodt! Acne affects mental health a whole lot and so it’s important to protect your mental health so I take it one day at a time. There’s only much I can physically do. I take time to breath and tell myself I’m more than how my skin looks anytime I feel down.

Positivity

I’ve learnt to be positive because I know that one day it would go away. That’s where my love for affirmation comes from. Yes, acne can’t be cured completely but it can be managed if you know your triggers and stay clear from them.

Discipline/Consistentcy

Whew! There are days where all I want to do after a long day is to just lay down and sleep but I remember that I have to at least wash my face. It’s not easy being consistent but it’s worth it.

Don’t panic

I only learnt this last month. With every fresh batch of breakout it comes with the urge to just make it go away so as soon as it forms a head I’ll be quick to pop it😩 The breakout I had in May taught me this lesson. After 2 months plus of no serious breakouts, when I had one in May during my exams I just wanted it to go away so I began popping and pressing and stressing and doing the most so it’ll go away. When it finally went it left serious dark spots on a particular area of my face which have now set me back. But we move. Now I no longer pop my pimples. I’ll let it run its course and go away.


Do you struggle with acne? What have you learnt?

Thanks for reading✌️

Story Corner||”What’s wrong with your face?”

Welcome back to my blog.

People can be really insensitive and this post is going to be very short. I’ll be sharing what happened to me early this year.

Like I said in my previous skincare post, I started this year with good skin. But somehow I had a very bad breakout just about when school was supposed to resume so I felt really bad. I was going to be resuming school after a year with fresh breakouts. I consoled myself and told myself it is what it is.

So as part of my preparation for school I needed to take new passport which is something I should have done earlier on, but procrastination won’t let me be great so I was forced to take it last minute with fresh breakouts on my skin😩 I felt insecure about my skin already but I didn’t have a choice.

On my way to school I stopped at a random studio to take the passport and all was good and fine until it was it was time to print out the picture and then the million dollar question was asked. “What is wrong with your face?” My guy didn’t stop there oh. He went ahead to tell me that I’m a fine girl but I should look for what to do to my skin. “Is it that you don’t wash your face? If you use Dettol soap all those things would clear in one week but you girls want to use all the beauty soap that would bleach you and destroy your face”

I was mortified. Have you ever been shocked that you don’t know what to say or how to react? That was how I felt. I wanted to cry there. I took my passport and left the place. I cried to sleep that night because I was hurt. I have had my fair share of rude stares and unsolicited advice but hurtful comments like that was my first time.

Acne is normal. It can happen to anybody and even adults. Not only teenagers suffer acne. It may just come in your adult years if you missed it as a teenager so be kind to others. It’s not expensive to be kind.

And no, acne just doesn’t go away. Stop bullying people who are trying to find a way to cure it. Stop telling them they have too many products and that’s what’s causing more problems.

Be kind. It costs nothing!


Thanks for reading.

Acne Awareness Month

Welcome back to my blog 🙋😊

Let’s pretend like I didn’t ghost y’all and have this interesting conversation which I’ve been meaning to have but have been too busy then lazy to type this out because it’s really long. My department is after my life guys. School isn’t supposed to be this stressful but I’m glad to be able to blog again.

June is acne awareness month and acne; skincare basically is something I love to talk about because I can relate to it on a personal level. I’ve battled with acne basically throughout teenage years till now. It’s one of those things I’ve come to accept about myself because the truth is that acne cannot be cured but can be managed.

I know that I’ve done about 2 posts addressing acne issues but I thought I’ll use this opportunity to address some things because as common as acne is, people are still ignorant and say insensitive things to people who have acne. I’ve had my own share of insensitive comments and it’s really hurtful and triggering.

One thing about my acne and skincare journey has taught me is that healing is not a straight line but a zig zag line. There would be good days and extremely hard days. There would be random breakouts that you won’t understand what triggered them just after celebrating a few weeks of smooth or clear skin. I’m still learning to be easy with myself during these periods.

Since this is such a sensitive topic, I hope I pass the message across properly because it’s really triggering but it feels good to let it out.

  • Acne is not linked to dirtiness.
  • Stop giving people with acne unwanted advice. Please keep your opinions to yourself, unless you’re a professional and even then, if you’re not asked for it, it’s not needed because you may mean well but may not be passing the message across properly.
  • Stop giving people with acne weird stares and looks. Acne is normal.
  • Acne doesn’t make anybody less beautiful.

To my people struggling with acne💜💜

  • Acne doesn’t make you less beautiful and that’s on period!
  • Be patient with yourself. The goal is healthy skin and not perfect skin.
  • Adult acne is normal and it’s not as a result of dirtiness.
  • Your acne would get better. There’s a rainbow after the storm.
  • Don’t take advice from anybody who’s not a professional.
  • Know your acne triggers and avoid them.
  • Educate and enlighten yourself about acne. Trust me, it goes a long way when you know how these things happen and what ingredients fight against it. The resources are endless on Google, Instagram and Twitter.
  • Don’t let acne cause you to start isolating yourself. Life is too short and it comes at you fast. Live your life❣️
  • Hydration is your best friend. Learn how to use acne fighting ingredients properly so you’re not overdoing it and damaging your skin in return.

This year has marked a turnaround in my skincare journey because I’ve put in a conscious effort to go the extra mile and educate myself about acne causes and management and I’ve learnt a lot to know that I was making a lot of mistakes which triggered my acne and made it worse. Black soap for example triggered my acne. I know that I could have sworn by black soap in my last skincare post but it backfired at me and I knew why it’s said to be too harsh for acne prone skin. I was planning to do a series on this but I don’t know if anybody would be interested in it(let me know in the comment section).

In as much as clear skin is nice, blemished skin is still beautiful. Textured skin is beautiful and acne prone skin is also beautiful.

From my last skincare post, you would see that I was excited about where my skin was. I ended 2020 and started 2021 with the best skin I’ve had since I can remember but sometime mid January I started having the worst breakouts and I didn’t change anything in my products, routine or lifestyle. School had not yet resumed so I couldn’t blame it on stress. Once I stopped using blacksoap, it calmed down and from there and changed my whole routine.

I’m very proud to say that I now have a skincare routine that works. I’ve dropped everything diy skincare and that’s the best thing that has happened to my skin, blacksoap being the second. I could go on and on about this but I’ll rather not bore you guys and then I’m already tired of typing.

But then enjoy this photo dump of my skin at different times this year to show you how zig zag my journey has been.

January

Ending of May

Beginning of this year

Beginning of May

April

March

Beginning of May

March. At this point I was dealing with just dark spots and acne scars

June. Stress caused this particular breakout

If you’ve read till this point please engage on this post. Let’s gist in the comments section😊.

Thanks for reading.

Blogmas Day 2| How I Cleared My Skin From Hormonal Pimples.

Welcome to blogmas day 2.

Since my last blog post here where I said I’ll share how I’ve found how to overcome hormonal pimples and clear my skin, my skin has been using me to play tag. I’ve had one serious breakout from using a product which caused a setback but I bounced back and came back stronger.

A little background about my skin issues is that I have hormonal pimples/acne which means that I get pimples a week or few days before I begin menstruation and they stay till my period is over, most times leaving a prominent scar. I’ve battled this since secondary school and only got to know what it was about 2 years ago.

I’ve had 3 consecutive months without new set of hormonal pimples/acne and your girl can’t contain her joy. I know some people may say it’s too early to start rejoicing, but I know what I’ve been through and we celebrate small wins over here. I’ll be sharing what I did and stopped doing to get to this stage.

I started affirming clear skin.

I’m an affirmation lover and I took it into my skincare and life generally. I affirmed more than just clear skin. I started affirming a stress free period. Now I no longer have painful periods. I always used to dread my period because I usually feel like I’m dying. From the pain, to breakouts, to diarrhoea, to nausea and vomiting, to discomfort, to feeling bloated, I just can’t deal. I can finally say that my period is not as bad as before and I hardly have any pains. The discomfort of period is still there, but for the most part, I experience a stress free period since I started affirming it into reality.

I stopped obsessing about my skin.

I just let my skin have breathing space. I had a bad encounter with a product I was trying and that was the last straw that broke the camel’s back. All I began doing to my face was washing it in the morning and night.

60 seconds rule of face cleansing.

On the topic of washing my face, I stumbled on an esthetician’s channel on YouTube and she talked about how important it is to wash your face with your fingers for 60 seconds and what she said made a lot of sense so I went to Google and it made more sense. Our face cleansers and washes need more than the few seconds we give it to remove the dirt from our skin. Since I started washing my face with my fingers for 60 seconds, the texture of my skin has improved a lot and it feels smoother.

I stopped unnecessarily touching my skin.

Well, more like reduced but it still made a lot of difference. Our fingers carry lots of bacteria which can be transferred to our skin when we keep touching our face.

I reduced my intake of dairy products/oily foods and drank more water.

I’m not much of a milk person. I majorly only take milk when I’m eating cereals when it comes to taking milk directly. Cow milk contains whey protein and some other growth hormones which are given to cows during feeding. These things, the hormones in particular can cause excessive production of oil and cause breakouts. Butter is another dairy food I had to reduce taking. I love butter so I just use it sparingly now.

The major oily food I noticed that causes me to breakout is fried groundnut and it’s also something I love and eat regularly so I found it hard to stop it entirely. I reduced my intake of groundnuts to once in a while and eating lesser quantities.

Water has always been a staple in my lifestyle so I just continued with it and with other good practices I incorporated, my skin started showing progress.

I started wearing hair bonnets.

Apart from hair bonnets helping to retain the moisture in our hair, it also helps to prevent our hair products from getting to our pillowcases and coming in contact with our skin because our skin and hair products do not like each other.

I started washing my pillowcase regularly.

Apart from hair products, dust and bacteria from the air can settle on your pillow case and cause breakouts. Sweat too, and so many other things that can hinder your skin’s progress can be on your pillowcase. So I started washing mine regularly.

If you noticed, I didn’t mention any products and I didn’t give water a space of it’s own. Drinking lots of water alone won’t give you clear skin when there are other practices you’re doing that are hindering you from getting clear skin.

For products, I’m shying away from trying new ones for fear of reacting badly to them like I did in September. I don’t know why I forgot to take a picture, but that was a very trialing time in my life and I was in hibernation so it didn’t occur to me to take pictures for future purposes when I’m celebrating my wins.

This was my skin in early September. It’s not a close shot but you can see how rough my face was.

My skin presently. The comeback was definitely stronger!

I’ll still get new products but I want to wait for some more stability with my skin first. But I’ve been using a blacksoap which has really helped a lot because like I said, all I’ve been doing is washing my face regularly and the soap has helped in clearing my pimples and giving my to face a vibrant look.

This s the blacksoap I use now.

These are the major things I did that helped me achieve a clearer skin.

Thanks for reading.

Stay safe!

How To Be Confident With Acne/Pimple Scars.

Not everybody has the privilege of having a clear skin. For those of us with acne, pimples, acne scars, we know the struggle of how we stare at our reflection and wish that all the scars just disappeared already.

For the most part of my life, I’ve had pimples. My earliest memory of pimples was at 10years old. They started out mild but as time went on, they became worse. It already wasn’t easy being a teenager but being a teenager with skin issues was a bigger problem. I used many recommended products/creams trying to clear the pimples and while some of them worked, my skin would get used to the product and it would stop working or the product will get scarce or overly expensive and I’ll stop using it eventually.

I eventually got tired of trying new things and left my skin to do whatever it wanted to. This was after secondary school. I found out that the pimples started clearing on their own but after a while they would appear again. This routine kept on occuring and I noticed it had a pattern which was during my menstrual cycle. So I googled it and found out that I suffer from hormonal pimples. A week to my period I’ll start seeing new pimples and they would stay till my period is over before they start clearing, but not without leaving scars or turning into acne which then causes dark spots on my face.

Acne and pimples are curable but they tend to take lots of time before they go completely, especially the scars. In the meantime, you can’t stay sulking or feeling down about your skin. I see the dark spots as my battle scars and the imperfections that add to my perfect self. Being dark skinned has helped me not to bother so much about the dark spots because they are not as prominent as they would be if I were light skinned.

Here are some ways to be confident in your skin with acne/pimple scars.

Don’t scrutinize every dark spot/pimple/blackhead.

Yes it’s a flaw, but it’s still normal to have acne or pimple scars or dark spots. The more you scrutinize your skin, the more critical you’ll be over the tiniest flaw and start building doubts about yourself.

Know it’s not as obvious as you think.

Your scars may not even be as obvious as you think. Most times we’re always the worst critics when it comes to our own skin. You think you’re going through a really bad acne phase while it may just be mild and not as serious as you think.

Stop comparing yourself.

You are you. Stop looking at that person and wishing you were her or him. They might also be wishing to be someone else, or have skin like someone else’s own too. Stop caring what others look like and start practicing self love. Learn to love your skin in all it’s stages and it would love you right back.

Embrace the skin you find yourself with.

Whether you have clear skin, hyperpigmented skin, oily skin, acne prone skin, dry skin, embrace it and accept it. There’s only so much you can do and you just have to let your body naturally fight it. If you don’t accept it, you’ll start feeling stressed and stress causes more breakouts of pimples and acne. I have a set of affirmations I say everyday and whenever I’m feeling down about my skin because there would be days when you would feel fed up with everything.

Realize that you’re doing your best.

You’ve probably tried a wide array products and none of them seem to be doing the work. No skincare routine seems to be working, but it’s okay. Your work would pay off soon but in the meantime you have to be confident in that skin.

Be patient.

Acne/acne scars/pimples/dark spots do not clear overnight. It takes a lot of commitment and dedication to see results. Consistency is always key. The products you’re using require time to work and heal your skin cells. Being impatient would only be putting more stress on you and remember, stress causes more breakouts which would hinder your progress.

Pamper yourself.

Do that face mask, get some sleep, buy yourself something you love, take a day off, do whatever you need to do to feel good with yourself and try to make it something you do often as long as it’s healthy for you. I love painting my nails or doing my hair.

Do what makes you feel carefree and comfortable.

Feeling carefree is important when trying to boost your confidence. You have to be comfortable with yourself and not care who is looking at you or who is talking about you.

Delete all negativity and stay positive.

Stay away from people who make you feel insecure and conscious of any part of yourself. That is bad energy and you need to be leave that behind you. Surround yourself with positivity. Be where you feel happy with yourself.

I’ve learnt to be happy an confident in my own skin because honestly, I’m tired of being bothered. I’ve also found a way to curb the hormonal pimples so that I can focus on clearing the residual spots. I’m excited to share my routine and products but that would be when I have good and visible results.

Thanks for reading ☺️